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Too bad
higher education doesn’t offer degrees in dating.
Is it possible for anyone to earn a Master’s degree in marital
bliss? “Sealing the
deal” with the ideal person is one area where no one has an advantage
over anyone else. The quest
begins during adolescence and progresses with each year thereafter.
The whole ordeal is mostly disappointing, disenchanting, and
emotionally exhausting. It’s
like one big stressful “spin
the bottle” game. Although
most of us forfeit and succumb to marriage, it’s not usually the
dreamy great expectation we had hoped for. The fleeting
notion has occurred to me that perhaps people aren’t meant to remain
together as the “happy couple” forever.
Since we are all unique individuals, maybe the reality of ever
finding a truly satisfying partner for life is purely a fallacy.
However, embracing one’s true and destined love is an almost
sellable fantasy; one I haven’t given up on. Time after
time I hear the expression “we always want the person we can’t
have” and it irritates me tremendously.
Whereas the common belief is that it is the “thrill of the
chase” we are attracted to, and not the actual person, I view it
differently. Desiring the
guy I “can’t” have is motivated by the possibility that he is the
guy I’m supposed to have---destined to be with. From what
I’ve observed, most people don’t believe in destiny. They probably don’t even think about it; or, maybe as a
passing thought, at best. I
absolutely believe that there is a soul mate for each of us.
Regretfully, most of us will never locate and/or realize out
divine treasures. This concept may explain why so many relationships
fail: If there were a
shortage of apples, and your mind was set on an apple, you wouldn’t
buy an orange and color it red, would you?
I wouldn’t; I’d hold out for the apple.
Because no matter how much you make the orange look like an
apple, it’s still an orange. However,
we compromise with relationships all the time.
I’m sure that’s why so many fail. Your soul
mate could be anyone, anywhere. And
let me say this, the odds are not in your favor, not by a long shot.
We start the search at a disadvantage.
From the very beginning, the majority of people are off-limits
for whatever the reason…too many to list.
As if the search isn’t difficult enough, we must recognize and
eliminate con artists, frauds, and phonies, if we are lucky enough to
pull off their masks. Therefore,
exposing them as the diversions from destiny that they are.
As in a video game, we must survive each level to go on to the
next. The ultimate reward
is a counterpart less than perfect to the world, however, more than
perfect for his or her mate. If you are one of the fortunate few to find your treasure,
consider your beloved a rare and sacred blessing. You will truly know the meaning of wealth. Remember,
your soul mate is out there somewhere.
As in the video game, collect your ammunition, gather lots of
extra energy, and run as fast as you can.
Jump over obstacles and dodge the enemies.
Try you best to reach the highest level, to survive the game.
You may never win and never be united with your soul mate.
Nevertheless, I cannot stress how important it is that you give it your
best effort. If
circumstances outside of your control prevent you from grasping gold,
then aim for silver. Don’t accept bronze.
Sadly enough, too many settle for aluminum foil.
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